Adulting with Autism

Unmasking Emotional Intelligence: Alexandra Velez on Healing, Secure Attachment & Love Without Shame | Adulting With Autism #EmotionalGrowth #SecureLove

April Ratchford MS OT/L Season 2 Episode 177

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Step into a transformative conversation on Adulting With Autism featuring Alexandra Velez—behavior designer, creator of My Secure Era, and author of The Availability Awards. Alexandra is on a mission to turn silent suffering into healing by bringing emotional intelligence and attachment theory into real-life relationships. With a decade of experience and a signature blend of empathy, structure, and wit, she unpacks why so many adults stay stuck in self-sabotage, people-pleasing, and emotional loops.

This episode reveals practical frameworks for escaping toxic dating patterns, building calm authentic connection, and growing emotional security—especially for neurodivergent and autistic adults who feel unseen or misunderstood in love and life. Alexandra shares how to spot red flags, stop abandoning yourself for approval, and integrate emotional skills step-by-step—no shame, just growth.

Join the conversation, share your story, and subscribe across Instagram, YouTube, Facebook, and TikTok. Tag #AdultingWithAutism and #MySecureEra, and follow @mysecureera for tools, live Q&As, and community support. Healing—and healthy love—begins now.

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